Sorry, unless there is more to this pointless blow up?…
my sense is that the reaction was rooted in irritation that someone would tweet at Jen and Colin and Adam for validation for a fannish thing—a behavior for which SQers are routinely castigated—and get that…
There was definitely more to it. JMo follows two individuals on twitter who regularly bully and antagonize SQ fans. She follows zero SQ fans. One of these individuals was the one she RTed about the tea (which yes, SQ has had one for years, but that is neither here nor there). By RTing this fan, she is condoning the bullying. SQ fans also noticed that during her “Smiles” campaign, she has been heavily favoriting CS tweets, but no SQ tweets.
She has time to promote CS nonstop, but can’t give SQ one interview w/afterellen OR Curve, so we kinda threw a SQ tea party of sorts Boston-style.
I’ve stayed out of ship wars for the most part, regardless of fandom. There’s no point trying to convince each other to embrace chemistry that you just don’t see or feel yourself. Zero point.
I embrace actual conversations about the danger of framing certain behaviours as romantic and positive. I do not oppose CS because it contains one half of my chosen pairing nor because it’s a straight pairing. I don’t take issue with the shippers of SwanThief, WoodenSwan, Gremma, nor MadQueen, StableQueen, and OutlawQueen (other than the overall poor writing of the arc) just to name a few. I don’t dislike Hook, necessarily, as a character - it’s often good to have that person you love to hate/hate to love and would very much liked to have seen more of him and Rumple interacting and progressing, since that was the original story. I do have a massive problem with CaptainSwan because of the grave implications of this Twilighty/50 Shades of romanticizing abusive behaviour.
Yesterday’s events, for me, were not about the tea. It was a culmination of a steady barrage of CaptainSwan promotion by not only JMo but the higher-ups and official promotion, coupled with the rapid decline in my opinion of JMo for her (apparent) continued support of a troublesome theme. In my opinion, if she is still uninformed of the huge volume of dialogue about the rape culture connection, she is being purposely ignorant about it. I actively attempt to never idolize a person, famous or otherwise, but when people you once had respect for openly supports something that concerns you greatly, loss of my respect is pretty much inevitable. Add that to the recent drama of refusing the AfterEllen interview and the dismissal of SQ with the “why can’t we all get along” whinge, and I’m just about done with JMo. Just about, because I always keep a glimmer of hope alive.
The tea provided a vent, and I snarked aplenty. Oh boy did I seize onto it. It was insensitive to the person who created the tea, and I acknowledge I didn’t take their feelings into consideration. I didn’t hear from any CSers other than the original poster of the tea tweet (who sent one dismissive tweet then blocked me) so I’m hoping my humour was taken for what it was and did not come across as offensive to CS shippers, because I did not intend to offend CS shippers. My anger and frustration is toward the show and the official people who promote it. If I have a problem with a CS shipper, it will be to do with the behaviour of that individual and not because of their ship. Frankly, if you ship it, and you want that type of relationship, I’m not going to attack you for it because I fear you will suffer more than you ever should be during the course of your life. I don’t want to alienate a person from a network of people who recognize the disturbing culture if/when that shipper decides that maybe we were onto something, and if they ever want to reach out for support.
Once upon a time I called myself anti-feminist because I didn’t understand what feminism was. I used to behave in a bullying way toward vegans and vegetarians before I understood what speciesism was. I claimed to not see colour until I understood what white privilege was. I will remain open to all those who don’t understand what rape culture truly is. I accept that sometimes it will seem to those people as though I am against them as I use whatever tools I have - snark, humour, angry rants - to chip away and expose the nasty things we have come to accept and even embrace as normal.